And dating rules
When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team.
For once, don't jam your calendar with plans a season in advance. Only when they finally went out to dinner together did they both realize their connection.
“You have to be really clear on what you want,” says Lindsay Chrisler, a professional dating coach based in Hell’s Kitchen. “Everything goes down over text now, especially between millennials,” Manley says.
Just don’t overdo it, and remember that humor and tone don’t always come through in a text.
Every interaction counts, from the conference room to G-chat to the soccer field.
Start seeing technology as a useful tool to get to know guys better. Before you know it, your convos will be getting offline."Instead of trying to micromanage your love life, create open spots for men, planned or unplanned, to fill," Massa says. Until you do, a guy may not even realize you're into him.
As far as friend requesting your date goes, 21 percent of young singles say it's OK to request a friend after 2-3 dates while 11 percent of older singles wait until the relationship is exclusive to do so.
It also means every night is “date night.” So the way it used to work—with time to plan what you’d wear, where you’d take her, and so on—has changed. Keep a change of clothes at work, along with some deodorizing wipes and mouthwash, because who knows what’s in store.
Let this be your new mantra: Everything and nothing is a date.
"You'll be missing out on all sorts of opportunities to connect with guys if you're simply waiting for them to ask you out," Massa says.
“It opens up a kind of flirty dialogue of like, ‘You can pay for the next date,’ ” he says.
In sex, just like sports, it pays to play by the rules. In football, officials moved the restraining line from the 30-yard line to the 35, with the intention of increasing touchbacks. Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.